The Woman Code by Sophia A Nelson — A Review

Do you know that feeling you have when you have tried to convey your knowledge on a topic, and then run across a book that presents that view clearly and comprehensively? Such was the feeling I got when I read The Woman Code, brilliantly systemized wisdom written by author and award winning journalist, Sophia A Nelson.

The sincere and open introduction tells how writing this book moved Nelson from broken hearted into a strong woman. While her stories of “loosing self” are familiar to most women, Nelson’s roadmap from crushed to whole is unique.

Realizing that collected messages from society, family and other relationships influence females to hide their talent, take submissive roles and loose touch with the real woman inside, Nelson encouragingly shares her strategies of valor and success, empowering the reader to be real and unpretentious. Reminding us, “Too much of what we do is exterior. By ‘exterior’ I mean that we are looking for the answers, the script, and the power that resides outside of us,” she keeps us at our true core where peace, fulfillment and genuine support can be attained.

The Woman Code exposes the personal, emotional, spiritual, professional and social areas where the distortions lie, and shares principles for making genuine life transformation. Quotes from authors, actors, leaders and dispersers of wisdom from all areas of life are road signs while Nelson’s words appear like rest stops welcoming the reader to bring forth her true self, “To be a woman is power in motion.”

The Codes challenge antiquated ideas on womanhood, including attitudes that women have toward one another. “Gossip” occupies an entire chapter – a fatal hidden saboteur of women’s power.

Gracefully, the lesson about the damaging impact of words is followed by vital messages on forgiveness and letting go, “The ability to apologize is a key virtue, that if learned early in life and practiced faithfully, will bless your life and lengthen your days.” Then when relationship dynamics become bitter diversions, the code of “untying and cutting” moves the reader through optimally loosening unhealthy connections, and getting back on track to living genuinely.

Refreshingly, Nelson dares to correct long-time practiced misconceptions of what power means for a woman, “We [women] ascend because we are capable, qualified, and gifted, not because we have to be like men.” Following rectification the book carries the reader through landscapes of courage and scenes of women lifting up each other.

Authenticity is the underlying theme of all the codes. As Nelson peals at the layers of identity slapped on by upbringing and social messages, she not only helps women access their core, she discreetly reveals how both men and women should mindfully treat our daughters.

The Woman Code is a straightforward, comprehensive guide to liberate the true woman inside. As increasing numbers of women travel the transformational path laid out in The Woman Code, we pave the highway for a sensible world.